by Scott Carter | Jun 8, 2019 | Emotional Intelligence, Responsibility, Self-respect, Shame, Values
A few years ago I found a picture on the internet of a horse that is tied to a plastic chair and I use it as a visual aid when working with clients because it communicates one thing in stark simplicity. That most things that stop us or limit us are purely mental. The...
by Scott Carter | Jun 4, 2019 | Connections, Emotional Intelligence, Men's Issues, Relationships, Self-respect, Vulnerability
Let’s get this out of the way early. Guys, if you want a happy and successful life, you must say no to bad relationships and walk away from them. Drop them like the bad habits that they truly are. As a therapist, relationship issues often dominate the lives of my...
by Scott Carter | May 21, 2019 | Connections, Emotional Intelligence, Emotions, Men's Issues, Relationships, Self-respect, Validation, Values
I’ve been noticing in men’s circles lately, that there are a lot of guys expending a lot of effort, time and energy analyzing and deciphering the behavior of women. I just don’t think that this accomplishes anything good. As far as I can tell, the only thing that this...
by Scott Carter | May 13, 2019 | Boundaries, Connections, Emotional Intelligence, Men's Issues, Responsibility, Self-respect, Shame, Validation
It had to have been about a year and a half or so ago that I got into one of those stupid Facebook fights with some crazy social justice type. I take full accountability, I should have known better than to even get into it. I know I’m smarter than that, I have better...
by Scott Carter | May 6, 2019 | Emotional Intelligence, Emotions, Empathy, Men's Issues, Self-respect
I think it was about a year and a half ago that I was working with a teen boy, aged 14, in therapy. When I asked his mom about her concerns, what behaviors were troubling her and what he needed help with she said something interesting that caught my attention....
by Scott Carter | Apr 24, 2019 | Connections, Emotional Intelligence, Emotions, Empathy, Men's Issues, Relationships, Responsibility, Shame, Validation, Values
I’m writing this article in response to a thought-provoking article on the Harpers Bazaar website, I guess it’s a magazine and I read the article online. The article is titled “Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden.” I have a lot...
